Being a bad partner doesn’t mean that you don’t love the other person, it could simply mean that you have some deep-rooted personal issues that need to be dealt with in order for you to foster healthy relationships in your life.
In some cases, you may not even realize that your words or actions are causing your partner to resent you or even hide their feelings from you.
You might be showing signs of codependency by being glued to your partner all the time or not caring about them at all by constantly being on your phone or out with friends. Either way, the first step towards making a change is by recognizing the behavior and being honest with yourself about your shortcomings.
Here are some red flags that could indicate that your actions are leading your relationship down a path of destruction.
Pointing out Their Flaws
Relationships are not easy. The more time you spend with the person you love, the more you discover about their habits that might tick you off. But you learn to overlook them and love your partner regardless.
However, being constantly annoyed by the things they do or say, and pointing them out at every opportunity you get might weaken your relationship over time. People who have felt insecure in their previous relationships are more likely to adopt this trait because it allows them to control their partner’s actions, which in turn, guarantees safety.
Not Communicating Properly
All relationships have their ups and downs, and arguments are only a smart part of it. While it’s definitely not okay to criticize your partner on every little thing they do, not communicating your emotions or feelings about issues that are important is equally bad.
Sweeping your emotions under the carpet will lead to pent-up resettlement over time that might lead to bigger problems in the future. Don’t wait for your partner to guess how you’re feeling or leave subtle hints that they may never be able to pick on. Instead, be direct and have an honest conversation about your expectations.
Not Giving Them Space
Being in a relationship doesn’t mean that you’re bound to each other 24/7. Your partner still has their own life and their friends, which means that it’s okay for them to ask for some space every now and then to do their own thing.
If you have a hard time loosening the reigns, it might be because you have codependency issues and need to rely on your partner for emotional and psychological comfort.